Divorce: I didn't believe in it, but I think now that I've gone through it I not only believe in it but embrace it. I can say so many things regarding divorce, but it's different for everyone. I thought they took a lot longer to finish, but luckily (at least for him) it went quickly. I'm not even going to begin to go into detail as to the circumstances that led to this divorce, but I'll say what I tell my children, "sometimes two people just don't belong together." Life has been so kind to me. I say that when I can take a moment to sit back and visualize all the wonderful blessings that have occurred since my divorce. For one, I got a job, which kinda begins my journey to self reliance/sufficiency. I kinda relied on a man for the last ten years of my life to take care of me, and while I won't go into details, it's nice to be able to spend some money on myself and my children when I know that I earned it. I even have a savings account that is well on its way. I am happy knowing that if I had an emergency right now, I could financially afford one.
Growing as a person has been another huge step for me. Somedays are a lot harder than others, but I know a tear or so a day keeps me sane. I vent constantly through verbalization or through crying like a baby, and honestly, it helps me-not get over the situation, but accept it. I don't think I have GOTTEN over ANYTHING in my life that has affected me. I have a serious tendency to dwell on things I cannot control and worry about things that really have no significance. I'm very slowly learning to take things in stride, and to allow myself to get angry when its appropriate, and then kinda accept it. One of my favorite lines lately (at least in my own head, where I keep a lot of stuff) is "It is what it is." I have a long way to go before I will be OK in this area, and I am thankful that I have someone in my life that is so patient and loving that is willing to help me through this time.
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